Sexual fantasies are one of the most mysterious aspects of human sexuality. We all know everyone gets it on, but learning about someone’s fantasies is an intimate, exciting, and often taboo topic only shared behind closed doors between partners. Fantasies are a step out of reality, and while everyone’s fantasies differ, there are common fantasies shared by many with overlapping themes. From dominance to dress up, let’s explore six of the most popular fantasies:
1. Power Dynamics
Power dynamics is one of the most popular fantasies, which involves the theme of control and submission. Dominance and submission is a popular fantasy because it allows one to step out of their usual role to assert power and control OR to surrender to submission in a safe and consensual environment. Whether it’s a sense of role reversal from their everyday persona or exploring different power structures that serve their everyday lives, it allows individuals to explore a new sense of dominance, freedom, or control/lack of control.
HOW TO TRY POWER DYNAMICS:
With dominance and submission, it’s important to start slowly to see how comfortable you are with your partner. Try a little hair pulling, light spanking, perhaps a raunchy negligee to dip your toe in. If it gets you both going, the world of power dynamics may be the kink for you!
2. Fantasy and Role Play
Adding a little role play to the bedroom is a common fantasy for many couples. While sex with your partner can sometimes feel monotonous in a long term relationship, fantasy and role play is an excellent way to spice up your sex routine without stepping too far outside of your comfort zone. Whether it’s the professor and the student, the business man and the french maid, or the masseuse and the client, these fantasies spark fire in the bedroom.
HOW TO TRY FANTASY AND ROLE PLAY:
Taking on a new identity in the bedroom is exhilarating, so pick a theme that relates to you when you’re first trying role play. If you’re living with your partner, add a bit of ecstasy to your chores by channeling the handyman and homeowner fantasy next time you have a DIY project. Is your partner a sports lover? Elevate your next game day with the football player and cheerleader role play. Finding a fantasy that fits your lifestyle makes trying role play easy and fun for beginners!
3. Forbidden Desires
Have you ever had a fantasy with someone who is not your partner? If so, exploring forbidden desires may be for you. This fantasy involves sexual encounters with those who would typically be taboo in the real world. Whether it’s relationships that would be considered inappropriate due to age, relationship status or profession, the urge to break these societal restraints is a huge fantasy for many.
HOW TO TRY FORBIDDEN DESIRES:
Looking to add a sexy form of desire into your relationship? Try exploring your forbidden fantasies by visiting a bar with your partner, flirting with strangers for a bit, and meeting each other later in the night like it’s your first meeting. This can respark those passions from early in your relationship without crossing any boundaries with your fantasies.
4. Exhibitionist or Voyeur Fantasies
Have you ever felt the thrill of being caught in the act? If so, perhaps exhibitionism and voyeurism is the fantasy for you. Whether you choose to invite others into the fantasy online or in-person or you simply sneak a peek of your partner solo, exploring this fantasy is all about seeing and being seen.
HOW TO TRY EXHIBITIONISM AND PUBLIC FANTASIES
Nervous to try exhibitionism and voyeurism? Embrace your voyeuristic side by watching your partner masturbate without interrupting to increase tension and desire. Try forgetting to close the blinds next time you get it on and risk a neighbor seeing you in the act. For a pleasure to savor together, explore exhibitionism with your partner on RM11 to let others see your own private show for the ultimate thrill.
5. Sensory Fantasies
We all know touch can be the best form of foreplay, but sensory fantasies don’t have to stop there. A sudden change in temperature can really ignite your senses, which is why so many people love adding hot wax, ice, or massage oils into the bedroom. If you love a good tease, tracing your partner’s body with a gentle feather can increase the build up and have them begging for more. Sensory fantasies are all about touch, so don’t be shy to bring accessories to the bedroom.
HOW TO TRY SENSORY FANTASIES:
If dripping hot wax on your partner feels a bit too risky, try tracing an ice cube along your partner’s body and follow with your tongue behind to create a sensory overload of hot and cold sensations. Your partner will be shivering in pleasure, and it’s a perfect way to introduce this fantasy to the bedroom.
6. Public Fantasies
Nothing sets the mood quite like a change of scenery, and many times you’re ready to jump your partner’s bones before even checking in. If that urge is strongest before you reach for the hotel key, public fantasies may be for you. Ever dreamed of joining the Mile High Club, showing a little skin on a nude beach, or going at it in a public bathroom? This fantasy is for you.
HOW TO TRY PUBLIC FANTASIES:
While public fantasies are risky (and can be illegal if you’re caught in the act), be sure you’re aware of your surroundings before stripping down with your partner. Have sex under the stars on your next remote camping trip or pull off on a country road for a quickie with your partner. If you really want to explore a public fantasy with your partner, book a weekend at a nude, adults-only resort for the full experience.
Fantasies are an exciting, and normal, part of sexuality – and exploring fantasies with your partner is the ultimate thrill and bonding experience. While it may feel intimidating to open up about what turns you on, dipping your toe in with these tips can spice up your sex life and leave you pleasured beyond your wildest dreams. Don’t be shy and give it a try!
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